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Irene's Wedding Ceremony Tips

Celebrate Your Love & Your Special Day in Your Own Special Way!

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Indigenous Blessing - Reading

Posted on 29 July, 2019 at 8:25

Now you will feel no rain,

for each of you will be shelter for the other.

Now you will feel no cold,

for each of you will be warmth to the other.

Now there will be no loneliness,

for each of you will be companion to the other.

Now you are two persons,

but there is only one life before you.

May beauty surround you both in the

journey ahead and through all the years and,

May happiness be your companion and

your days together be good and long upon the earth.

What if it Rains?

Posted on 24 July, 2019 at 8:00

Plan on making the most of it ... After all, it’s not about the rain …

it’s all about you, the love you share and a new chapter in your life together.

Have a plan just in case. (there's a beautiful reading referencing weather at the end of this post)

Many venues, planners and vendors already have a plan B in case of rain.

Most couples don’t want to see rain on their Special Day.

Yet, there can be many long-range memorable bonuses.

Photographers can capture some really amazing pictures.

Rain can bring your family and friends closer together as they seek shelter making your day more intimate.

Talk about memories! … Your wedding will be remembered.

You and yours will talk about it for years to come.

Many cultures believe that it is auspicious if it rains on your wedding day.

It can symbolize fertility, growth, cleansing and renewal.

Unfortunately, we can’t cannot control the weather.

Have a plan just in case - and plan to make the best of it.

May the sun bring you new energy by day

May the moon softly restore you by night

May the rain wash away your worries

May the breeze blow new strength into your being

May you walk gently through the world and know its beauty

all the days of your life.

Hand Blessing - Reading

Posted on 8 July, 2019 at 0:25

These are the hands of your best friend . . .

These are the hands of your best friend.

These are the hands that will love you and cherish you through the years.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

 These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving.

These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope.

These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.

Together, as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours,

still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Author Unknown

Blanket Unity Ceremony

Posted on 22 June, 2019 at 8:05

Warmth, Comfort & Love

The blanket symbolizes your bond, your support and your closeness

that will continue to develop day after day.

This loving unity ceremony represents the comfort, support, understanding, compassion and beauty you bring to each other on your wedding day and throughout the years to come.

When Cass was born, her Grandmother made this special quilt as a gift for Cass’ wedding day. This quilt signifies the warmth, comfort and love, not only that Cass and Leo have for each other. The blanket also represents the support and comfort of family and friends that is needed to sustain a healthy relationship.

Your special blanket can be used cuddling together in the living room, bedroom, cool evenings or any other time.

A comforting reminder of your special bond and your special love.

Celebrate Your Love & Your Special Day in Your Own Special Way!

Children in your Ceremony

Posted on 15 June, 2019 at 8:15

Without a Doubt - They ARE Wedding Show Stoppers!

Here are a few tips to consider when you have little ones

participating in your ceremony.

Practice … practice … practice … How to walk down the aisle – How to throw the petals – How to carry a sign – What to do with rings – oh, and by the way, be prepared – because when your day arrives … they may get excited or confused or scared or all of the above and who knows what they’ll do. These are the things that make them such a Big Hit.

Assign a helper, someone they know, trust, not make strange with is preferable and is responsible.

Let them know where mommy and/or daddy will be sitting.

Consider their age – for example: a flower girl can hold your bouquet during the ceremony.

Instead of your super expensive wedding rings, perhaps the ring bearer may have “faux” rings on the pillow and member of your bridal party have the real deal.

Some of the ceremonies I perform are breaking with tradition. The flower girl carries the rings or the boy carries the petals – or – they share all the roles together.

Remember – You can create your day!

Celebrate Your Love & Your Special Day in Your Own Special Way!

A Special Tip for your Special Day!

Posted on 8 June, 2019 at 13:05

Celebrate Your Love!  Bask in the Joy!


Ask anyone about their Wedding Day, younger or older, newly married or married a while ago …

One of the most common comments is - “It went by so very fast!”

My Special Tip for Your Special Day is . . .

Truly savor each and EVERY experience of your day.

The feeling, the food, the family, the friends, the fun, the smells, the smiles, the wishes – the LOVE.

Breathe it all in, yes, even the faux pas. Let every aspect sink in to the very core of your being.

Enjoy it.

A well-planned ceremony and a well-planned wedding day overall can help you do this.

Whenever possible in my ceremonies, I allot some “togetherness” time.

Sometimes the most important words are those not spoken at all.

You’ve planned, spent money, created, maybe even stressed, about your Wedding Day.

Remember the adage “time” flies when you're having fun"

A wedding is perfect proof of that saying.

So when your Special Day arrives .....

Make the effort to be fully “present” and fully “aware”.

Consider Personalized Ring Vows

Posted on 31 May, 2019 at 20:15

The exchanging of rings is so much more than simply a "token of love" . . .

“The marriage ring seals the vows of marriage and represents a promise for eternal and everlasting love. It is a physical manifestation of the promises joining you together. The wedding ring is placed on the fourth finger of the left hand because it was traditionally believed that this finger was a direct connection to the heart – the perfect place for a symbol presenting eternal love and commitment.” – author unknown

In the past couple of years more and more couples have asked me to help with writing and personalizing their ring exchange ceremony. Sometimes they write a ring exchange instead of writing their own vows and on occasion, they have written both.

You have gone to great length and effort to select the perfect rings. - Make the exchanging of your rings extra special too!

Celebrate Your Love & Your Special Day in Your Own Special Way!

Exchange your rings in an extra special way!

Consider personalizing the sealing of your promise and commitment.

Remembering Loved Ones

Posted on 26 May, 2019 at 19:55

Beautiful & meaningful ceremony ways of remembering

those who have gone before us.

Your Wedding Day is about you and the love you share – A Happy Time!

Yet, at times reality can check in with those happy-sad moments when you are reminded of loved ones no longer here to share in your Special Day.

There are so many thoughtful ways during the ceremony to honour and recognize loved ones who have passed without “overbearing” your Happy Day or your ceremony.

Here are a few ideas for your ceremony. (There are numerous ways during your reception as well.)

Simple invocation by your officiant - Usually, I say a sentence or two almost at the beginning of the ceremony. Sometimes I mention names, and sometimes I don’t, depending on a couple’s preference. I keep it simple, respectful and loving. At times I start by acknowledging friends & family who couldn’t attend your wedding for various reasons such as distance. My recommendation is to keep the invocation at the beginning part of the ceremony, allowing the rest of the ceremony to be devoted to you, your love and your marriage.  I run the words of invocation by my couples to be sure they are okay with it and to get their approval.

Reserved Chair – A memory chair is often reserved for a special loved one(s) no longer with us. It can be decorated with a flower(s) or a sign is printed. I’ve also had the Bride and Groom place a bouquet of flowers or a simple rose on the chair as part of their ceremony.

Memorial Candle – Lighting of a memorial candle beginning your ceremony or having a pre-lit candle. Open flame can be challenging outdoors or your venue may not allow for open flame. Consult with your venue or use a battery candle.

Memorial Table – Often a special honouring table is decorated with flowers, pictures, mementos and candles. The table is generally at the reception, however, I have had them off to one side during a ceremony and then moved to the reception area.

Unique Ideas - I’ve had brides/grooms wear special jewelry or place mementos or jewelry in flowers, have a poem read, incorporate favourite colours, favourite song, so many individual ideas ... I’ve even had the privilege of wearing a special scarf as I’ve officiated a wedding. 

You know best what best suits your emotions and needs - think of ways that work for you.

Unity Ceremony - Veil, Cord & Coin

Posted on 18 May, 2019 at 7:30

Make your Wedding Ceremony personal & extra special.

Include a unity ceremony you love or create your own.

A unity ceremony within your wedding ceremony symbolizes the unification of you as two individuals joined in matrimony.

It normally follows the exchanging of vows & rings but can be observed at any time during the ceremony where it “fits” in.

There are so many to choose from. I will be highlighting other unity ceremony traditions in the weeks to come.

Your unity ceremony can be symbolic, cultural, spiritual, religious and meaningfully creative.

Even if you are having a simple, secular or non-denominational ceremony you can still consider including a beautiful custom or tradition. 

Most times, there is a “Special Treasured Keepsake” that you can cherish for years to come.

The Veil, Cord & Coin Unity Tradition

A Beautiful Unity Ceremony from the Fillipino Culture & Tradition

Veil - The veil is a symbol of unity and that the couple shall now be “clothed as one”.

Yugal (Cord) - The cord is a symbol of the lifelong bond between the couple.

Arras - The coins are a reminder of good stewardship for all couples; that they will mutually support each other, their children and the world around them.

There a so many beautiful ways to add a personal touch to your Special Day Ceremony.

Definitely, consider adding a beatiful Unity Ceremony to symbolize your commitment to each other.


Posted on 11 May, 2019 at 9:25

Not sure whether or not to have a ceremony rehearsal?

Who does What? When? How? - Here are some points to consider.

A ceremony rehearsal is generally held the week of the wedding. I have held them as early as two weeks prior. Most of the time it is held at the venue. Venue staff, your wedding planner, your officiant, or even you can lead your rehearsal. Often it’s a combination.

The rehearsal is optional. Yet, while not “mandatory”, it is highly recommended having one and don’t forget to include your officiant/minister.

You, your fiancé, your family, your bridal party will know what to expect and what to do during your ceremony. They become familiar with your venue. Your ceremony can run smoother with questions answered and with a practice run through. Ok – so maybe a couple of practice runs might be needed.

Who goes first down the aisle? Who sits where? Who stands where? Is your bridal party going to stand up front or be seated in the front row? What if your ceremony is outside and needs to be moved indoors last minute? So many details large and small, and those you might not have thought about, are covered at the rehearsal.

A ceremony rehearsal can help everyone feel more comfortable, get to know each other better and be more prepared for your Special Day.

It can add to your Wedding Day running smoother and on time.

And … you can get those other last minute wedding details off your plate with your bridal party and/or venue.

A Ceremony rehearsal helps ensure that your dream vision for your ceremony becomes your reality.

Celebrate Your Love & Your Special Day in Your Own Special Way!

Ceremony Flowers

Posted on 6 May, 2019 at 8:00

Are you considering using your ceremony flowers

elsewhere in your wedding?

I’ve discussed this with Lead Florist, Indra Tan, of Plush Flowers.

While this works for some weddings, for others perhaps not so much.

Here only some questions to consider:

Is there enough time from the end of your ceremony to reception and/or dinner to collect your ceremony flowers, perhaps take down your arbour flowers and make the switch or relocate?

Does your photographer, videographer or guests still want to take pictures by your ceremonial arbour?

Who’s going to do it and are they available? Will it be your florist, décor person, planner, venue staff, friends, family?

Will it prove disruptive to your guests and / or wedding day itinerary?

Is it really cost-effective? Will you incur an additional charge for someone’s time and, if so, is that still less than having other floral arrangements made?

What other things specific to your wedding day would you need to consider? 

Depending on your wedding day plans, re-purposing your gorgeous flowers

 from your ceremony, may or may not be a cost & efficient alternative.

Celebrating Family

Posted on 28 April, 2019 at 5:35

A marriage is, and is so much more than, a formally/legally recognized union of two people as partners in a super special personal relationship.

Marriage is also the celebration of family.

Often in my ceremonies, a family unity ceremony is personalized and included to recognize and honour family. Some couples also choose to recognize their parents, grandparents, surrogates, special people and, yes, even include their pets. They're family too.

Recognizing Family or a Family Unity Ceremony usually happens after exchanging of rings, before your First Kiss or after your First Kiss and before signing the legal paperwork. It can be included in your ceremony where appropriate at any time as it's YOUR ceremony.

Here are some ideas you can include in your ceremony to recognize family members.

There are so many ways to do this. Be creative and come up with your own.

My intent is to maybe get you thinking on customizing your ceremony.

After all, it’s YOUR Special Day! Celebrate ot in Your own Special Way!

Giving a gift or small memento of your ceremony, during your ceremony, is quite popular.

Request your officiant/celebrant do a Special Mention in the ceremony with a poem or family blessing.

One person or group activity - Have them participate in the ceremony by reading a poem, singing a song, playing (live) a musical selection, walking you and your partner down the aisle . . .

Parents, Grandparents and Surrogates – giving a rose or a small ceremony gift. If you are doing a blanket unity ceremony your parents (grandparents) can be the ones who drape the blanket around you.

Blended Families – during the ceremony invite the children to come up and form a circle. There are many appropriate poems or “promises” that can be recited at this time. Another family unity ceremony that is popular is having a special vase and each family member puts in a flower to create a bouquet. The special vase ceremony can be beautifully recreated in your home afterwards on anniversaries, special family occasions or those times when the waters get a little "rough".

If you’re doing a wine or champagne box unity ceremony, it can be expanded to include family. The idea is that you and your partner write letters to each other and lock the box with the bottle and glasses to be opened on your romantic anniversary. You can have family members also write you notes and can be included in the special box for opening and ready at a later special time. Hint here … you may want to collect the letters prior to your ceremony. I’ve held ceremonies where family members have forgotten to bring their letters to the ceremony. If you have the letters in advance then those writing you special notes can come up and place them during the ceremony.

When a loved one is failing in health … my goodness this is a sad one, but all too real for those going through it. I’ve married couples months before their actually “wedding date” and then performed a commitment wedding ceremony at their wedding. Some family and guests don’t even notice that the wording has been slightly altered and have no idea that they are already married as they walk down the aisle. Some couples have me addresses it in their day of ceremony and some don’t. The choices are all so very personal.

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and What About Including Your Pets?

Pets are family too. I’d be amiss if I didn’t mention how important pets are in a family. Including your pets in your ceremony can be both fun and, yes, at times, challenging.

Couple of final pointers on recognizing family.

Your wedding day and wedding ceremony is a celebration of your love. It is about you and your partner. If you wish, absolutely include a family component. My suggestion is to keep the focus on YOUR marriage and that by including a family unity ceremony, it compliments your ceremony and doesn’t overshadow your very special moment of commitment.

Have fun with it. Be creative.

Weddings - So much Love to go around!

Outdoor Wedding Ceremonies

Posted on 21 April, 2019 at 20:15

Dreaming of your romantic & magical outdoor ceremony?

Here's some tips . . . 

What’s your setting?  Is it a forest, farm, golf course, your venue’s gazebo, park or maybe lakefront?

Perhaps it’s even your own backyard or property as pictured above.

There are so many gorgeous outdoor venues to choose from.

The arbour is meticulously decorated with a spray of stunning flowers. Gorgeous drapings sway in the breeze.

Is it modern? Is it rustic? No doubt, outdoor weddings are truly lovely, no matter how quaint or how elaborate the setting may be.

Here are three things you may want to consider for a ceremony held in the outdoors.

1. The first is to be on time with your ceremony. Consider your family and friends who are waiting - sometimes in the blazing sun, the hot outdoors, rain or cold. Summer days here in Ontario can be very hot, hazy and humid. Not everyone likes the summer heat and some people may become quite agitated. It doesn’t take long for some to overheat, especially seniors, children or someone with an illness. The last thing you want at your ceremony is someone passing out from over-heating.

As in the picture below, to beat the heat, friends and family members moved to stand in the shade.

It was a hot July day – one of the hottest days of that summer.

Some couples actually put their ceremony time half an hour earlier on their invitations. This ensures everyone is there on time and the ceremony can start promptly.

2. You might want to consider having cool water, fruit punch or other beverage available when your guests arrive. This way they can stay hydrated. Your guests may have been stuck in traffic and/or traveled a distance to come to attend your wedding. Before your ceremony works. Your venue logistics have much to do with this. Guests handling their drinks during the ceremony may be cumbersome but having a drink before it starts is a great option.

3. High heels and grassy areas don’t always go together very well. Consider your location. Is there a long walk to your ceremony? Is the area uneven or hilly? Having flip flops on hand for your family and friends may be a good alternative. 

When planning your outdoor dream ceremony remember to think of the weather, be creative, consider your guests and strive to start on time.

Say “I do” with the outdoor ceremony of your dreams.

Welcome to my Wedding Ceremony Blog

Posted on 18 April, 2019 at 22:10

Celebrate Your Love & Special Day in Your Own Special Way!

Starting Monday, April 22, I'll be posting weekly wedding ceremony tips.

Here you'll find ceremony ideas, techniques and insights both you and your partner may wish to consider when planning the ceremony of your dreams.

Suggestions from vendors will also be shared as their expertise in ceremony planning is invaluable.

Stay tuned ... I'm excited to get started ... have a terrific weekend ... first post coming up Monday.